Because You Couldn't See Me - Guided Meditation

by Bhavani Lev and Kristin Hoffmann 🎵

In this guided meditation, Bhavani poetically reflects on a childhood of deep sensitivity and love that was often met with disapproval, leading her to believe she was unseen, unworthy, and dependent on others for validation. After a lifetime of seeking love externally and experiencing repeated rejection and pain, she realizes that the love and worth she longed for must come from within. By reclaiming her place at the center of her own heart, she embraces her inherent value and invites others to do the same.

Because You Couldn’t See Me

Because you couldn’t see me, I thought I wasn’t there.

When I was a little girl, I could see things.
I could feel things, I could feel what other people were feeling,
I could hear their thoughts, finish their sentences.

That was received and met with disapproval mostly,
a shocked face and then a gap, a distancing…
as I felt them in retreat
from me.

I knew that I was full of light and full of love,
full of knowledge, truth, awareness, presence, exuberance.
My love was overflowing, seeking to be met, to be received,
to be appreciated and reciprocated, and I was
eagerly awaiting the glorious exchange.

It seemed so natural, authentic, intrinsic, so true.
This love seeking love, seeking expansion, growth,
flowering, blooming. Togetherness.

Ahhhh the exquisiteness of one moment
of my mother’s loving hug, laughing with my brother,
or a smile from my father – and my heart would light up
like fireworks!

These moments were few and far between,
but just enough to keep me seeking more. Just enough
to know without a doubt it really did exist, this love,
this pure, loving connection flowing like a mighty river.
At least, I felt it.

But the moments got further and further apart,
and the space got filled with rules and expectations, definitions
for who I was supposed to be and become.

The expectations dangled with a promise of love rewarded,
but apparently I was never good enough to receive.
The rules kept changing, being redesigned arbitrarily,
my enthusiasm waning with every rejection.

I thought it must just be my family!
Ok – I’ll wait. I’ll grow up, get married, have children,
have my own family and live happily ever after!

Ahhh the innocence of my sweet self!

Did you ever feel this way?

In every relationship I was seeking love
and finding love, beautiful love!

Again I was reaching out, longing to meet in the place
of always prioritizing love as the pinnacle of life.

But we didn’t know, us humans. We didn’t remember.
We got lost.
So lost.

We hurt each other.
We didn’t really know how not to.

I spent a lifetime seeking to be loved,
to have my love received, to honor that delicious flowing
nectar of loving connection.

I tried to adhere to exalted paths in numerous contortions
of my being, and still experienced rejection, abandonment, loss,
disappointment, betrayal, blame and resentment.

I diminished myself until I almost disappeared,
seeking nothingness as a spiritual path.

Until I realized that I somehow had absorbed and believed the idea
that I needed recognition, approval, acknowledgment, agreement,
and some kind of verification, confirmation, and certification
from some external authority.

Or maybe I even believed that my ok-ness, much less my greatness,
needed some kind of collective external consensus.
Yet it was always vague and unclear how
that would actually happen.

Did you ever feel this way?

This wound in my heart,
this excruciating pain in my heart,
just kept getting deeper and deeper.

But then, I finally found that all that disappointment,
grief and loss revealed an empty seat
in the center of my heart.

A seat I had kept trying to give away.
A seat on which I kept placing someone else:
my father, my mother, my boyfriends, my teachers,
my husband, my children, my grandchildren …

But all the external rejection and abandonment led me here,
to the seat in my heart. To the throne in my heart,
waiting to be filled by none other than me.

And I took my seat.

That was one of the hardest and most courageous moves I ever made.

I sat on the throne in my own heart.

And I sit on my throne,
my golden throne made of light and love.
And I feel all the pain, and all the love.

It’s been quite the journey into the unknown,
navigating my life from a completely fresh perspective.
It’s been scary, afraid of being seen as selfish, uncaring, narcissistic.
It’s an ongoing journey of feeling, inquiry, tears and laughter!
Very painful and absolutely exhilarating,
and utterly profound.

And I found within me a pivotal and core assumption
that had slipped in and made itself at home:

Because no one could really see me, I thought I wasn’t there.

Well, here I am!

Here I am.

And yes, because you couldn’t see me,
I thought I wasn’t there.

Because you couldn’t love me,
I thought I wasn’t loved or lovable.

Because you hurt me and belittled me,
I thought I wasn’t good enough.

Because you diminished me, and judged me
with disapproval, I thought I was unworthy.

Because you lied about me, blamed me, rejected
and abandoned me, I crumpled.

But truly, because I placed my eyes on you, I led myself astray.
Seeking love, approval, appreciation, respect,
recognition, and worthiness, from all of you,
so I could feel good about myself!

I crawled through that long, dark, dank tunnel –
an unspeakable journey.

But at the end I found what I was looking for.

Myself.

Myself held in dignity and love.
Myself, undeniably and unequivocally loved.
Myself, bright, brilliant, adorable, beautiful, pure, innocent,
and utterly good.

I’m no longer willing to deny, diminish, grovel, or
disappear myself.

My light is more brilliant than can be seen by any human eyes,
my beauty is more profound and glorious,
the love that I am is unequivocally pure and magnificent,
and I am infinitely greater than even I can acknowledge.
And I am being and becoming more of all of this,
which is myself, with every breath.

Right here, right now, here I am –
peacefully, quietly, happily, and sometimes painfully,
occupying the golden throne in my own heart.

And I invite you to look into your heart,
and discover your own golden throne of love and light,
pulsating with beauty.

And take your seat.